Thursday, August 23, 2007

What Laura learned

A recent thought from the blog of Laura Stamps, posted with Her permission:

"I truly believe an overdeveloped sense of responsibility can cripple your life. Yet it’s a tough habit to break when as loving, giving women our lives are full of so many needy people.

"One way to gain a right sense of responsibility is to realize you are not responsible for anyone’s emotional happiness but your own. Simply, happiness comes from within, and there’s no way around that.

"Knowing this will loosen the bonds many emotionally needy friends and family members place upon generous women. Even our children are ultimately responsible for their own emotional happiness, and it is our responsibility to gently empower them with this teaching."

4 comments:

Carmen said...

Amen!

Chase March said...

I agree to some extent. I know that sometimes I can be blindly loyal and it doesn't always serve my best interests. But doesn't being loyal serve others? And isn't that a good thing?

eastcoastdweller said...

Chase, I think that what is under discussion is a sort of tough love -- letting people be emotional grownups and stand on their own two feet.

Chase March said...

Yeah, you're right ECD. I do beleive that we need to teach those we care about to be responsible.

I commented mainly about what the first paragraph meant to me. I think loyalty and how we give and act concerning it, is also a issue worth discussing. Maybe I should post about this on my blog.