tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5875136140537336379.post1493414744848223472..comments2023-10-21T09:47:25.393-04:00Comments on In Search of Isis: Family nightmareEastcoastdwellerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18140530743668908554noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5875136140537336379.post-48126847942098669182007-07-17T04:56:00.000-04:002007-07-17T04:56:00.000-04:00hope it works out okhope it works out okLance Abelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13408212587692099731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5875136140537336379.post-23468337609071966642007-07-09T14:01:00.000-04:002007-07-09T14:01:00.000-04:00I feel for you, not how any vacation should be and...I feel for you, not how any vacation should be and certainly the least expected as well.<BR/>As for if and how you should talk to your dad about...I don't know. My dad passed away when I was 2 so I don't even know anything about that sort of relationship to go there. <BR/>As for your mom though you need to be very cautious - keep in mind the following - a woman's heart is deeper than any ocean and she carries with her alot of secrets. Any proud woman controls what she makes public and what she keeps to herself and for the fact that you have not ever heard anything from her about this should tell how guarded she really is. Should you decide to approach her don't ask her any questions, none at all. Simply come to her and tell her that because of everything happening over these past few days that you're concerned. Let her know what you're feeling and what you may be assuming. Let her know you are not going to ask her anything but if she would like then she can come to you and talk, you'll listen. This will let her know that not only are you her son but an adult she has the freedom to go to. She may open up to, she may not and that's her call. What happened in the past is exactly that, the past but unfortunately it tends to manifest itself in our present and this is where you get caught - should you or shouldn't you say something. The talk you had with your other brother is great and aside from letting your mom know what is going through your mind you may not want to take it any further with them. <BR/>An abuser knows what they're doing is wrong but are in denial, the abused are also usually in denial, even shocked that they let it get as far as it has - when you question an abuser directly their reaction is never a calm one. <BR/>You may decide it best not to say anything and that call is based on your family's dynamic and how well you believe they would be able to handle it.<BR/><BR/>I hope things better for you and your familyAmar Mandairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04239622325692857514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5875136140537336379.post-41103208854222467722007-07-09T13:53:00.000-04:002007-07-09T13:53:00.000-04:00I wish I knew what to say, but I don't. Welcome ba...I wish I knew what to say, but I don't. <BR/><BR/>Welcome back. I hope things work out.Chase Marchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01936179353954941946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5875136140537336379.post-66740900302571008842007-07-09T06:10:00.000-04:002007-07-09T06:10:00.000-04:00There are choices, to stay and remain the victim –...There are choices, to stay and remain the victim – an uncomfortable comfort zone, to stay and remain the abuser – a pattern of learnt behavior unbroken. And so the nightmare one is born into continues. Your rose colored glasses have faded perhaps merely to open your eyes to what you once avoided seeing, which can never be avoided. Eventually the truth slaps us in the face and says look. Yet no where has anyone asked for your help, so no need to intervene on what has become an uncomfortable way of norm. Perhaps you are not the intended rescuer here, rather the intentional healer. One must always heal thou self first, then “be the example you wish others to be.” Easier said then done when emotions are attached and the situation is personal. Yet possible.ndpthepoetress Jean Michelle Culphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18421929108208152104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5875136140537336379.post-15137157588588637702007-07-08T22:11:00.000-04:002007-07-08T22:11:00.000-04:00That bites. Talk about being between a rock and a ...That bites. Talk about being between a rock and a hard place.<BR/><BR/>I wish I had some awesome advice for you but...Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05773463566798092888noreply@blogger.com